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My toddler seriously hates potty training?

Thursday, December 22nd, 2011

Question by All you need is love: My toddler seriously hates potty training?
I have a kid who is almost 3 now and I really need to get him potty trained so I can get him into preschool in the fall.. The problem is he absolutely hates it.. He throws a fit if I try to get him to sit on his potty chair or the big chair.. As soon as I take his diaper off to try the “no pants training” he gets all stressed out and begs me to put his diaper back on.. Today he was playing outside with his toys without a diaper and he peed a little by his toys and he absolutely threw a fit, ran around the side of the house and was in a terrible mood.. Hes not having fun with the potty training idea at all.. How can I make him like it!?

I know that people say give him lots of awards for “going” in the toilet, but what am I supposed to do if I can’t get him to “go” there in the first place??

Best answer:

Answer by Brittney
The best thing to do is take a few days that you have time like a weekend or whatever, and for example 2 days tell him he can be naked that day or if not he doesnt like it then fine just underwear or a diaper whatever, And make him drink his favorite drink ALL day long. Then you place 2 or 3 potties all over the house.
So he’ll have to go pee often and whenever he’s gonna pee make it fun, a story involved. Like make the potty a magic chair and if you give it your pee-pee he’ll give you a present. And don’t tell him what it is so he’ll wanna know.
Anyways It’s been affective many times with me and helping my friends too.
Good luck 🙂

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My son is 3 1/2 (4 in Nov) and had been “potty trained” for about a year now.?

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

Question by clayjoe: My son is 3 1/2 (4 in Nov) and had been “potty trained” for about a year now.?
For the past 6-8 months or so he has been having “accidents” on a pretty regular basis. Sometimes daily. In fact, today he has wet his pants 4 times! I will punish him by time out or taking away a toy when he does this, but it doesn’t seem to help. Does anyone have any suggestions? We had a new baby 9 months ago and I understand how having a new sibling can make them go backwards in potty training for a while, but I was hoping he would progressively get better, but it seems to be getting worse. Could there be something physically wrong with him?

Best answer:

Answer by Meghan H
Maybe. There are some physical problems (like juvenile diabetes) that can cause loss of bladder control. You should discuss this with his pediatrician.

Punishing a child for having ‘accidents’ can cause anxiety in the child, which can cause a child to have more ‘accidents’. You might want to try a more rewarding approach – like a sticker chart or a token system.

Anxiety can also be caused by other things, like a new sibling or another stressful change in living situation. Sadly, children who are abused or traumatized will also begin having ‘accidents’ like this, although they usually show many other signs as well.

Hope everything goes well for you!

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“potty trained” child peeing on the carpet?

Saturday, June 18th, 2011

Question by Jen: “potty trained” child peeing on the carpet?
I’m at my wits end.
My 7 year old has been potty trained since she was 3 and a half to 4ish (Late for some kids, but I let her quit diapers when she preferred the potty.) Off and on since before she started kindergarten I would find little wet spots on the carpet on occasion and I wrote it off as spilled water, but it’s become clear (since I caught her in the act) that when she doesn’t feel like walking to the toilet, she simply squats, pulls down her pants, pees on the floor, and goes about her day. She doesn’t bother cleaning it up, and sometimes she puts large toys or chairs over the spots recently so I don’t find out right away and she doesn’t get in trouble.

She shares a bedroom with her 4 year old sister who is grossed out by it and tells me when she sees her do it or finds a wet spot.
I can find no psychological or physical reason why she does this.
I’m a stay at home mom and she gets plenty of attention from me and her dad, with her sister and alone. She’s not abused or mistreated by anyone. Both her parents live in the same house and love each other and her, so it’s not like she’s acting out from stress, insecurity or worry. She has a bathroom that is “the kid bathroom” alone adjacent to her bedroom that is perfectly clean, well stocked, and everything works.
She does not wet the bed, suffer from nightmares or sleepwalking. She has no problem holding her bladder while she’s at a friend’s house, at the store, in the car, or through the night.
There is no connection with the frequency of her behavior with the school year, vacation, moving, family problems, or family changes, other than it happens less when she’s in school because she’s simply not at home during the day, or more at times of day when I’m too busy to watch her constantly. (She does it when she thinks she won’t get caught.)

It appears to be a simple matter of opportunity and laziness and I have no clue how to handle it any more.

I’ve tried punishing her, talking to her, making her clean up the carpet, grounding her, telling her it will make her very sick, telling her I will talk to her teacher (worked for about 3 weeks until school ended) taking away TV/books/toy boxes that keep her distracted in her room for long periods, and finally today when I found her most recent spot I dug out a year old (clean) diaper from before her sister was potty trained, and put it on her without ceremony, and informed her I’d be buying her more if this continues any longer.

We are not permissive or heavy handed parents. We usually favor standing on the wall and save spankings for serious or dangerous behavior and after the fact of the punishment explain why the behavior is bad in a way a child can understand.

The pediatrician can’t find any medical reason for this and thinks she is otherwise a normal well adjusted first grader. Her teachers think she does great in school and is a normal well adjusted first grader.

I’m now 7 months pregnant and I can no longer be bent down on the floor scrubbing the carpet with laundry detergent and bleach every day, and I certainly can’t be doing it when the new baby arrives, plus I think it’s outrageous to have a second grader wetting the floor like a poorly trained puppy, a 4 year old who’s been potty trained for two years, and a baby in diapers.

Please God, I can’t be the only mother on the planet that has ever gone through this?
The only other story I’ve ever heard of this that was similar was of a 16 year old who peed on his floor because he didn’t want to get out of bed and blamed it on the cat. O_o

Best answer:

Answer by Snowbarbie
I wouldn’t punish her for this, other than having her clean it up.

But what I would do is this – get books from the library and talk about Urine and the kidneys, the whole bladder and getting waste products out of our bodies. She likely thinks that it is just water, but it isn’t, it will smell if it is left on the carpet, and bacteria can breed in there.

Teach her why it is wrong to do this and how it is unhygienic for your whole family.

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do you think that there is a “set” age for a child to be potty trained?

Friday, May 13th, 2011

Question by giggles: do you think that there is a “set” age for a child to be potty trained?
my husband’s mother is starting to get on MY case about MY daughter.
My daughter is showing signs of readyness, but everytime I put her on the potty, she dose nothing! All she wants to do is get down.
I feel as though I should wait until she is more ready and more willing. I don’t want to push her into doing something she’ll hate me for. (I know she won’t keep hating me, it just feels like it.)
And as for pushing her for the sack of pre-school, forget it! School for her starts in Kindergarden, age 5. Trust me she’ll be trained by then!
how do I start? addvice anyone?
Please help!!!

Best answer:

Answer by 36 weeks with baby #1(Noah)
No, there shouldn’t be and isn’t a set age for children to be potty trained. All children develop differently and at different paces. While one may potty train at 2 another may not start until age 3.

You’re right in not pushing her, as that will only hinder the process. Just keep an eye on her with this and once she starts showing more interest/curiosity then slowly introduce it. You’re fine in what you are doing.

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