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Märklin Locomotive Baby Krocodile

Sunday, June 17th, 2012

Märklin Locomotive Baby Krocodile
ho model trains
Image by FerdMels

Märklin Locomotive Baby Krocodile

Sunday, June 17th, 2012

Märklin Locomotive Baby Krocodile
ho model trains
Image by FerdMels

My husband isn’t very affectionate of our baby girl?

Thursday, March 1st, 2012

Question by : My husband isn’t very affectionate of our baby girl?
When he is watching football, he places her over his shoulder (the burp position) facing backwards, she faces a blank white wall, ignoring her for a long time. If she fusses, he turns up the volume. If I give him the look, he just says “what’s wrong, baby?” in an annoyed voice.

When she cries at night and it is his “turn” to check on her, if she is cold-hot-wet-hungry, he doesn’t want to go. Her crib is right by our bed, but he claims it is because I am closer. He doesn’t wake up or pretends not to (he swears he does not pretend, even when she cries loud). If he gets up, he wants to get back to bed as quick as possible. He wants to place a pacifier in her little mouth and “shush” her to sleep, which will only make her more upset. He does not even open his eyes completely, like he wants to not lose the “sleepy mode” of his own.

When I got sick with the flu and when I am too sleep deprived, I nurse in bed (she is exclusively breastfeeding) and the deal was that I would wake him up afterwards if I needed help burping her or putting her back to bed. He takes forever to get up, I have to call many times, and I don’t want to get louder and startle her, but he is so lazy. Then he goes for a t-shirt, for a clean burp cloth, sometimes it takes so long for him to pick her up from me that she starts fussing needing to burp.

I used to leave the house for a few hours on a few Saturdays but I don’t trust him anymore because I come home to see her asleep in her playing chair with a pacifier on and him on the floor with a pillow and a blanket – and that just feels odd, I have no idea how she fell asleep like that, it is not her style. But still he says he “enjoys” being with her, and says he loves her (I think he does, in his odd way).

When she takes long to fall asleep, I ask to take turns holding her and he complains that she wishes she would soothe herself and says he can’t understand why she won’t just fall asleep, period. I explain that she is just a baby and she is learning and he needs to be patient. It does not affect him. He thinks that when she grows up he will enjoy being a parent more, that is what he said.

He has suggested to let her cry herself to sleep with I firmly forbid from start. He insists I should “train” her to a schedule, which I won’t because it would be all work of my own just to stress me and her out. I like following her pace and that will not change. She will have a schedule when she is older and ready to go to school. Anyways, HE would not help me if I tried the schedule.

During my labor and delivery he only wanted to sleep and he was mean to me, wanted to shut the lights off and sleep all the time, did not help me recover.

There are good things about him, though. He does not mind cleaning and cooking, he can do dishes, laundry, etc, even breakfast in bed to me on weekends. He buys her clothes, toys, gear, I never asked him to. He is good at changing diapers but he will never give her a bath.

It bothers me the lack of bonding with the baby and our relationship deteriorating because I resent him for not helping me physically.

He says he loves her, but she stares at him dearly and he does not acknowledge. He talks loud around her when she is tired trying to sleep and she cries and he just walks away.

She is 4 months old now and he has always been like that. I tried talking, explaining, giving him copies of book pages he won’t read, I became bitchy and later apologized, don’t know what to do anymore. If I give him the cold treatment it is hard because he tries to be nice and then goes back to his normal again next day.

Also, we have plenty of sex, and I feel h bribes me, being nicer around her when he wants her to fall asleep soon so we can have sex. Shortly after we are done, if she wakes up, he is sound asleep back to being a lazy d**k. He even dares to say he would like to have more sex and if I say I am too sleep deprived tonight he says “you don’t really have to DO anything, just be relaxed”.

Thanks for reading.

I might sound childish, but appreciate adult opinions, of “been there’s”. If you never experience any of these things, please don’t bother giving opinion.

Appreciate it.
Lotty – Yes, first baby.
Pearl – I did not mention but I do express some milk for him to feed her at night. I have a night job from 2am to 6am from home. She usually sleeps and I nurse her during my break. I watch her sleep on the monitor. If she wakes up when I am on the phone (it is an over-the-phone job), he feeds her for me.
Pearl – I did not mention but I do express some milk for him to feed her at night. I have a night job from 2am to 6am from home. She usually sleeps and I nurse her during my break. I watch her sleep on the monitor. If she wakes up when I am on the phone (it is an over-the-phone job), he feeds her for me.
Kelly – there is no way I will torture my baby just to make my husband more comfortable. I practice attachment parenting, it is best for her. Thank God people are refusing these cry-out, own-bedroom methods more and more, for the sake of happy and healthy babies. thanks for the input anyway
a GUY – if a guy is not ‘into’ babies, why make them?

Best answer:

Answer by choko_canyon
Opinions? Mine is that your post is about 5x as long as it should have been, and that you didn’t ask an actual question. But in fairness, that’s just an opinion.

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